Updated: Aug 5, 2019
If you often find yourself beset by worries; then, you could easily sketch the outline of your thoughts and draw out a picture of yourself as being no more and no less than a worrier. Perhaps, you feel like you are not able to accomplish much of a thing and fear being left out (aka FOMO: fear of missing out); or you’re caught up in bad situations and you find it hard to come out; the odds and ends are building up and they begin to look greater as time goes by.
Collins dictionary describes a worrier as someone who spends a lot of time thinking about problems that they have or unpleasant things that might happen.
This is when the warrior in you is called for. Just when you thought you were about to give up, all of a sudden, a hero comes along—more like T’Challa, the Black Panther, when he returns to save the African nation of Wakanda from his enemies and proves his mettle as the rightful king of his people.
Referring to Merriam Webster, there is the so called fighter warrior and another one which is a happy warrior. As the term itself implies, a fighter warrior is one that fights while a happy warrior is undaunted by difficulties.
Whether you like it or not, there will come a period in your life when you must have to decide to fight and simply move on. Sadly, only the brave ones can do this. And, by being brave, it doesn’t mean we simply have to pretend that we are even amidst hardships and troubles. More than that, you strive to do something to make things easier to bear. The mere fact that you are willing to survive shows the kind of warrior that you are.
Indeed, we can choose to be a fighter worrier. Yes, you read it right, someone who fights as he or she worries. Gradually, you rise through the ranks to becoming a fighter warrior and then, a happy warrior -- undaunted by the monster storms of life.
I once sought the counsel of a respected professional psychologist with whom I instantly felt at home sharing my feelings when I was having my own anxieties in the past. I was advised to focus on the positive side of things and enjoy them while they last, instead of worrying about what might happen. I asked him if it’s ok if I hand him the USB of my unwanted memories which gives me unreasonable anxieties, and he’ll do me the favour of deleting the trash himself. To which he replied—“I’m sorry Mindfulness, but no one else can possibly do it except yourself.”
I knew what he meant by that…but I was drowned in self-pity and self-blame. Eventually, I would realise that I own my feelings and thoughts; that I am the sole author of my responses to whatever comes along my way.
Let me hear someone here say, “I am a fighter warrior! Not a worrier!” Bravely repeat this to yourself as if cajoling your enemies into submitting to your order of freedom and liberation from slavery. Where worries are concerned, time is on our side. Even the greatest of heroes have to go through a series of battles before they are able to claim the throne of victory.